Each day, we have many opportunities to grow and learn. At first, we may not see that, but over time, we are able to look back and see the lessons that we have learned. I have been in recovery for a long time now, and I am able to reflect back and see exactly what recovery has taught me.
1. Self-care is important.
The most important thing you can do in recovery is get yourself to a place where you feel good about yourself. You need to be gentle and nice to yourself. You need to work on your confidence. And you need to take care of yourself. Eat healthy, exercise, get enough rest. For me, relapses always used to start with me being incredibly stressed out. When I take care of myself, that doesn’t happen.
2. Ask for what you need.
You cannot get help from anyone unless you ask for it. We all need help from time to time. You cannot go through recovery on your own. You will need the support of your loved ones. And they cannot read your mind. You need to ask for the things you want or need.
3. You can only control you.
You can’t control what other people are going to do or say. You can’t control outside circumstances. You can’t control the economy, the weather, your boss, your family. Any of it. The only thing you can control is the way that you react to situations and people.
4. Every mistake is an opportunity to learn.
I have already touched on this one, but there’s no sense in looking back at your mistakes and being overwhelmed with guilt or regret. Try to figure out what the lesson was in that mistake so you can learn from it and move on.
If we cannot look back over the past and see what we have learned, we will be doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over. It is so important to be able to look back and reflect on everything you have learned. So what has recovery taught you so far?